Big Daddy

Last autumn, Bas Vodde and James Grenning were visiting Hangzhou. Bas Vodde is a friend and ex-colleague of mine. James is an Agile coach. He’s one of the principal authors of the Manifesto for Agile Software Development. They came to coach TDD for our company.

We went to a Korean restaurant after work one day and I drove the car. When the CD in my car played:
"M-I-C-K-E-Y…"
Bas said, "I don’t know that you like Disney music."
"You know", I said, " I’m a dad now." (My baby was about 1 month old at the moment.) "I have to learn these children songs. You know, in case one day I have to teach her."
And Bas asked, "Bah! But isn’t it more fun to learn together when she grows up?"
It seemed that I had never thought about that as an option, although what Bas said was simply true. I wanted to learn those songs before my daughter even knows anything, so that she will think that her almighty big daddy knows everything. I’m not sure if it’s my own problem, or every daddy is just trying to do the same thing:P Showing off shouldn’t be more important than enjoying the fun with my baby. These coaches, they always know how to pinpoint the subtle problems and challenge you directly.
I answered Bas, "You are damn right!" And then I switched the CD.
"Oh, your baby likes Pink Floyd.", said James Grenning.
I said "No, no, that’s for myself. Shall I switch back to Disney music?"
"Pink Floyd is fine."

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12 Responses to Big Daddy

  1. zheng says:

    看不懂

  2. 大马 says:

    怎么你也是闺女?!别听那些coach废话,他们就喜欢说些好像一语道破天机的话,跟电影台词似的。可生活不是好莱坞。所以该准备还是要准备,不过学唱儿歌这些虚的就不要了,来点儿实际的。比方说孩子的衣食住行病,吃喝拉撒睡。我都快要改行当中医了,就是为了孩子将来的健康,现在庸医太多了!家里的油盐酱醋都换了,以前吃的大众货里面都是添加剂,现在满天下找无添加纯天然完全传统制法做出来的油盐酱醋。贵10几倍几十倍,为了孩子,值。孩子从出生到满月,百天,1岁,2岁,3岁。。。每一个阶段都只有一次,错过了就过了,再也找不回来了。不准备能行吗?!赶明儿你问问那coach有小孩吗?说起agile,一直很感兴趣,当年他们聚众宣言的时候俺也是早早就去抢沙发来着。可惜这么多年了,还是在关注中。这方面西洋就是比东洋强。

  3. Terry says:

    是啊,是啊,小女还只有半岁。大马生几个了?James的女儿和我们差不多大,Bas么,不在这里透露别人的私事啦:-)不过Agile还是源于东洋啊。

  4. 大马 says:

    怎么干这行的都是女儿?果然是阴气太重啊,成天老坐着不动。就这一个闺女就折腾得我够呛啦,暂时不想再下了。比你女儿小,刚过百天。敏捷源于东洋?难道是丰田的看板方式?也许吧,敏捷和看板的精髓都是一样的,不断地改善。不过看源头没用,火药还是中国人发明的呢,结果被洋人拿来把自己打趴下了。还有那个ruby,日本人写的,数年没人用。结果还不是出口转内销,被洋人RoR了一下才流行开来。真不错,通过大猫的猫头像找到了你这里。以后多写些agile的文章,顺便交流一下育儿心得,呵呵。

  5. zheng says:

    我闺女1岁刚过,哈哈

  6. Terry says:

    西方原本在质量管理方面就膜拜日本。虽然日本的质量革命也是美国人去搞的。现在流行的Lean, Agile也被认为是源于日本。很多这方面书上都会引用个一两句日本话,如:"Mono zukuri wa hito zukuri"。看来西方世界对小日本的崇拜是很深的。

  7. Yi says:

    大马兄有点愤慨啊,coach没那么不良的。。。

  8. 大马 says:

    是的,日本人也很自豪他們的物造り(mono zukuri),但其實學不徹底。比方說大家都花100%的精力實現了99%的質量,一般人頂多花10-20%去再提高一些就得了,可日本人肯再花100%,甚至200%的精力試圖實現那1%。這是有民族性格在里面的。你不想這么變態吧?那你就學不徹底。“西方世界对小日本的崇拜是很深的”,這話對,尤其是那些搞agile的。我比較關注的Alistair Cockburn,直接把日文漢字寫書里去了,還有陰陽什么的,還真能往上扯,呵呵。我感覺西方人崇拜的是東方文化,本來是中國的東西,被日本人先入為主了。也怪近現代中國人不爭氣。給coach道歉了,是我好萊塢大片看多了。。。

  9. Yi says:

    日本人也许就是不接受不完美吧,所以喜欢把东西都做得很精致。一种文化吧。至于Alistair,你说的是守破离啊之类的东东吧,他们好像确实比较喜欢,我猜测和lean有关系,因为丰田的缘故,吸引大家都去关注日本的东东,所以即使那些东西从中国而来,外国人却因由日本而了解。

  10. Terry says:

    历史一再证明,丰田牛啊。

  11. Yi says:

    呃。。我没你那么崇拜,哈哈~

  12. Terry says:

    崇拜谈不上,其实也不是很了解。

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